tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post2167718428654398502..comments2023-02-26T02:47:53.512-05:00Comments on Funky Little EarthChild: It Hurt. I Screamed. I'm Still Legit.Funky Little Earthchildhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18426546990920691174noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-74467287853735284632012-07-31T21:19:32.260-04:002012-07-31T21:19:32.260-04:00wonderful post - thanks so much for putting into w...wonderful post - thanks so much for putting into words what doubtlessly many women feel. i also had a very painful at home back labor and screamed (a lot). and felt really odd about it afterwards, especially after having watched all the pro-natural birth videos and the candles and peaceful music in the background, and the baby silently slipping out into the birthing pool. in advocating for natural birth, perhaps what should be stressed is the lack of harm to mom and baby and their bonding, not the lack of pain and the glamour of birth. because it is so not glamorous. amazing and beautiful perhaps, but so not glamorous. so again, thanks for posting!!elainanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-64187053703836591032012-07-31T01:46:12.613-04:002012-07-31T01:46:12.613-04:00Love this post! Thanks for putting it out there. I...Love this post! Thanks for putting it out there. I was so that mom obsessed with a beautiful birth. I did have a home birth with my first. It was actually short, 7hrs. And it hurt like hell the whole time. I screamed. My midwife urged me not to and rather to moan. But screaming, vocalizing felt right and damn appropriate for what I was experiencing. The beautiful thing about a non-medical birth is that I was flooded with hormones and by the time my 2nd degree tear was being stitched up I didn't feel a thing. And a week later I couldn't quite remember the pain as vividly as it truly was, as I was engulfed with my new life as a mama.KLOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02903857568111017493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-27896220259100815842012-06-03T20:36:51.468-04:002012-06-03T20:36:51.468-04:00Congrats on your new little baby, Invi!!!Congrats on your new little baby, Invi!!!Funky Little Earthchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426546990920691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-32472975793933808542012-05-31T18:07:39.441-04:002012-05-31T18:07:39.441-04:00I screamed. My boyfriend had thought I'd be th...I screamed. My boyfriend had thought I'd be the kind to grit and bear it. I wasn't sure what would happen.<br /><br />I remember pain. I remember being uncomfortable at the onset.<br />I remember whimpering and whining much like a dog through transition. <br />I screamed through the part at the end, where my body was pushing and I didn't have a choice. Told my midwife I wanted to take a break.. but I couldn't. Screamed that I couldn't do it, even as he was coming out.<br /><br />This was only 5 weeks ago. <br />I'm still kind of upset that in the end, I ended up on my back (but on my living room floor, so that's all good). This was at the request of the midwives so the baby had more room (since I couldn't really hold myself up squatting, I guess). <br /><br />I think transition was the worst part. It was certainly not pain-free, but I didn't expect it to be, either. <br />I think perhaps the fact that I read this blog entry before I had my baby helped in some way. ;)Invinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-2552483471348116592012-05-09T01:24:29.167-04:002012-05-09T01:24:29.167-04:00"They'll take me out of the house on a gu..."They'll take me out of the house on a gurney with her head halfway out and all my neighbors will see my vagina and that I missed a spot shaving and..." --<br /><br />Nope, that would be ME. :)<br /><br />You rock. Screamers are alright.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-15827865562214687032012-01-18T14:01:22.231-05:002012-01-18T14:01:22.231-05:00YES YES YES! Thank you for posting this, for shari...YES YES YES! Thank you for posting this, for sharing this! I've been needing to read something like this for awhile now.danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16488288634066783416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-77031690332834973292012-01-11T17:58:47.490-05:002012-01-11T17:58:47.490-05:00Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all accep...Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all accept each other's experiences as true and valid? I was a quiet birther. Had one birth that wasn't painful- but it was intense. Had two that hurt. Yep. Ouch. Hurt. My non-painful one was my second. I grew up with a grandmother who swore that birth doesn't hurt and a mom and aunts that swore it does. Why not simply believe that another could have a different valid experience? There isn't a "birth enlightenment scale" (nor is there a "parenting enlightenment scale"- because the comparisons and judgments don't stop with birth, do they?) Thanks for speaking your truth!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-23564530657332000242012-01-11T13:10:39.891-05:002012-01-11T13:10:39.891-05:00I've had 4 amazing home births and 2 miscarria...I've had 4 amazing home births and 2 miscarriages. And yes, I had 4 hours of labor with my misscarriage (14 weeks along, baby had died around 9 weeks) including transition and yes I moaned, and cried and breathed through it. All of my births were painful in different ways, and with each of them I was afraid. With my first I was afraid because I had never done it before and I was so worried that the baby would die before she got out. I pushed for almost 2 hours, and bellowed through both of them. With my second birth I was so afraid that I would have to push for that long again, instead she was born in record time after only 2 1/2 hours of intense labor, I felt amazing afterwards. With my 3rd labor I was afraid things would go super fast like the previous time and that I would feel out of control again. Instead I had a longer slower labor and a very painful transition with a posterier baby and a short cord wrapped around her neck. I NEVER wanted to do that transition over again, so that was my fear going into my 4th labor, and I was surprised with a short and sweet labor that seemed to skip that horrible transition period. If I had to do it again, I would pick that 4th labour, still painful, still screamed, but manageable. Every birth and every woman is different. There is no wrong way for a woman to choose to birth her baby. There is no wrong experience for a woman to have during labour and childbirth.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13674332089949439989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-38177775373883450672012-01-08T15:17:23.606-05:002012-01-08T15:17:23.606-05:00Lia Joy - I love everything you said.
Liz - posi...Lia Joy - I love everything you said. <br /><br />Liz - position has a lot to do with it for sure. You are right about our striving for perfection - and flylady is to blame!! :-) Interesting question about the words used in other languages. I wonder...Funky Little Earthchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426546990920691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-90331323720631118002012-01-06T19:28:50.553-05:002012-01-06T19:28:50.553-05:00I concur about the position of the baby. Sounds l...I concur about the position of the baby. Sounds like you had a very "active birth". The F word is a fantastic Anglo Saxon invention and swearing is scientifically proven to reduce pain. But every women and every birth is different and some women don't feel swearing is appropriate for them. Each to their own. I had a wonderful home birth with my first son, very quick and very intense (lots of sitting on the loo and pooing). I did hypnobirthing and I like to share my homebirth story with women online but only to inspire them that it is possible to have a positive experience but not to make them feel bad. I think that sometimes women put too much pressure on themselves to achieve perfection (thanks flylady) and very often over-think situations. When I was in labour I felt that I was being squashed by a giant Boa Constricta Snake to the point where I was fighting for breath and at the same time it felt like someone had a finger up my back side and was trying to drag me backwards but the word "pain" doesn't fit the picture. I wish there was a different word in the English language that described "labour pain" that was positive. Are there any words in other languages that make this distinction between negative pain and positive pain?Liz Maynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-25098273037889942742012-01-06T17:54:21.045-05:002012-01-06T17:54:21.045-05:00I've give birth 3 times. They were all planned...I've give birth 3 times. They were all planned the same: unassisted waterbirths at home, yet they were each very unique. I have videos of my second & third births up on youtube (liajoy83) and on #3 people say "omg. you are so calm..." but on #2 "what a drama queen" "you should use that energy for pushing, not screaming!" I have to laugh at that one -- seriously, if you could *feel* the intensity of the energy at that moment... I'd probably have torn in half If I'd put all of that energy towards pushing! Anyway, my point is that I think too many people see different women reacting differently to *birth* as if it's the same every time (the weak ones scream from it, the powerful ones orgasm, or whatever) when in reality, we are reacting to a *very specific birth experience* and you could have 100 birth experiences without ever feeling what I felt while screaming my head off -- or what I felt while looking all calm & composed... Just because all of your births up until now were painfree doesn't mean they all can be, and just becuase they've been excruciating doesn't mean they all will be -- I think baby's position often plays a HUGE role...Lia joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795882304547114044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-12405334666555790342012-01-01T15:59:39.905-05:002012-01-01T15:59:39.905-05:00Mama Birth - isn't it awful that we even quest...Mama Birth - isn't it awful that we even questioned ourselves?Funky Little Earthchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426546990920691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-38219140019717941312011-12-30T00:03:47.487-05:002011-12-30T00:03:47.487-05:00Awesome-
felt the same way w/ my second- I was act...Awesome-<br />felt the same way w/ my second- I was actually ashamed of myself after-Mama Birthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117513287607189564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-43202042334932930882011-11-08T22:46:12.919-05:002011-11-08T22:46:12.919-05:00I'm so sorry for your losses. So many people d...I'm so sorry for your losses. So many people don't know or don't understand that miscarriages are real labor and delivery and the ending doesn't "make it worth it" as they say with live births. I'm sorry you lost two babies. :-(Funky Little Earthchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426546990920691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-30304960219637781712011-11-08T22:21:26.643-05:002011-11-08T22:21:26.643-05:00I've had 6 births. The 1st 4 were c-sections....I've had 6 births. The 1st 4 were c-sections. The last 2 were due to miscarriages.<br /><br />My 1st miscarriage: The baby died around 15 weeks and the doctor put the seaweed rods in my certix to help it dilate, since I had never been in labor. He didn't think my body could work. That was a Monday, and my d&c was to be Friday. I came back Wednesday for more rods to be put in. That was so painful and I wanted to die.<br /><br />I woke up Thursday morning around 5am with contractions and they got more regular around 9m. And by 10:30 they were coming every minute and lasting 45 seconds. I had never been in labor before, so this was all new. I got to the hospital around 12 ish and they left me in the ER. I finally delievered the baby around 1pm. It hurt so bad. I couldn't believe the pain and how bad the contractions would be. They ended up doing the d&c for the placenta. I wish I would have told them to just wait. My body could and would have done it alone.<br /><br />My 2nd miscarriage was less than 14weeks after my 1st one. I was 7 weeks when we found out we lost that baby. I chose to decline the D&C for this baby all together. I delieved the baby the next day in the tub, that was the easy part. The hard part was the next 3 to 4 days with the cramping and bleeding. My uterus trying to go back to normal.<br /><br />So I would agree, it is as bad as full term labor, just not with the happy healthy baby at the end :(mommyof7 (2inheaven)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10125869209600225709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-18949504331261878922011-10-10T21:28:35.690-04:002011-10-10T21:28:35.690-04:00There is a theory that we approach labor much like...There is a theory that we approach labor much like sex and it does make sense on a biological level, what with hormones and all. A lot of women and their husbands/partners say the same thing - that their birth sounds are much like their sex sounds. It's interesting. <br /><br /> I feel like I need to be vocal during transition. Like you said, it helps with that intensity and pain. <br /><br />:-)Funky Little Earthchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426546990920691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1936244980142483230.post-84767464135037382712011-10-10T11:57:38.652-04:002011-10-10T11:57:38.652-04:00I yelled and screamed my way through transition to...I yelled and screamed my way through transition too. Vocalizing really helped me get through the intensity and pain that is for me the end of labor.<br /><br />My DH did say after it was all over that it did sound a lot like the noise I make during an orgasm only a LOT louder. It didn't feel like an orgasm, it HURT, but I think it makes sense that it would sound similar in some ways.<br /><br />Our births are just as unique as our sweet little babies, and something that only we can truly experience.<br /><br />So glad I'm not the only one that gets noisy for transition.The Stay at Home Wifeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14215802996960166560noreply@blogger.com